Psychiatrists who will take me seriously and don’t act like I’m a junkie?

I'm looking for a new psychiatrist in Houston who will take my issues seriously. Most times I meet with one, i have it repeatedly stressed to me that they can't prescribe meds like xanax or klonopin, even if I never asked for them.

With my previous psych, i was having anxiety attacks so bad in June that I went to the ER three times thinking I'm dying of heart attacks. My Psych started me on Lexapro, and when I told her 'I agree this will help long term, but what should I do in the meantime to avoid going to the emergency room,' I was given an emphatic shrug and basically told to keep up therapy and lexapro, which I was doing.

It wasn't until the third ER visit and I sobbed during my Psych visit that she reluctantly gave me a single fill of 15 Klonopin to ease through the anxiety attacks while the therapy/mediitation/lexapro all started to work.

That 15 Klonopin lasted over 5 months and there were seven weeks between the second to last one and the last. Due to a combination of life stressors and internal bullshit, I've caught myself having awful anxiety attacks again. Only the knowledge that I knew for a fact my chest pain was anxiety kept me out of the ER.

I talked to my psych, and started new therapy sessions (on top off the old) but I'm still struggling. She suggested we could try a new medication and cognitive therapy, which I'm on board with. However, when I asked if I could once again get a small script for something to take OCCASIONALLY for crippling anxiety attacks, I was treated with skepticism, like I was a junkie.

Despite the fact I went through 15 Klonopin in 5 months, and I never once asked for more during those five months, she flat out refused to give me any and insisted I need to learn to deal with anxiety without klonopin as a crutch. I tried hydroxycine for a couple of weeks, and while it does help me sleep, it didn't help with the anxiety attacks. Even still, she insisted "I can't prescribe you xnanax/klonopin" when I didn't even bring either up. I was simply honest about how the hydroxycine helped.

On top of this, my wife has has similar experiences since we moved to Houston. She saw a psych who refused to do anything other than prescribe lamotrigine, which she took, but she was also having awful anxiety attacks and was treated like a junkie for wanting a small amount of something to get through the ER-worthy anxiety attacks. even after months of various treatment plans, she was treated like a junkie for asking if she could have FOUR xanax pills a month for a while since she was usually having 3-4 attacks a month.

Can anyone recommend psychs that are sympathetic and understanding to those who need medication for occasional anxiety attacks? We're already working on long term therapy in various forms, and are trying the usual anti anxiety/depression meds at their suggestion, but there's this overwhelming air of 'You just need to suffer these anxiety attacks and hope your treatment regimen eventually stops them,'.

I don't recall having these issues when I lived in the Midwest (Ohio/Indiana/Michigan/) and psychs were nice about prescribing small amounts of emergency anxiety meds.